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Sibling Rivalry

Why kids fight and what parents can do to keep the peace.

One minute they’re best friends. The next minute they’re each other’s worst enemy. It’s your kids, and they’re at it again.

While some siblings get along better than others, sibling rivalry can be found in every family. In some families, rivalry begins even before the second sibling is born! While sibling rivalry is a normal part of development, it can be very frustrating and stressful for parents.
What causes siblings to fight and what is the best way for parents to handle it? Should you intervene or let them work it out themselves? Read on to find out.

Why Brothers and Sisters Fight

A child’s personality plays a large part in how he or she relates to siblings. A child who has a laid-back, easy-going disposition probably won’t initiate as many conflicts as a child who is stubborn and easily provoked. A shy, quiet child may rather get walked on than become part of a conflict. An aggressive child may seem to always be on the lookout for a way to assert strength. Differing personalities often lead to squabbles.

As you know, kids need attention. Because of this need, they will work to get your attention in good ways and negative ways. If kids feel neglected or ignored, they may misbehave to get Mom or Dad’s attention. When parents are distracted by work, caring for a new baby or sick child, or dealing with a special needs child, the other kids in the family may act out as a way to remind their parents they are still there.

Many siblings are in competition with one other. Conflicts often arise over issues of fairness, sharing, and equality. Children act as rivals for a home’s limited resources—whether toys, personal space, time in the bathroom, last scoop of ice cream, time on the computer, or parental attention. When children see their siblings get something they don’t, they become jealous. Jealousy may lead to bickering and fighting.

Kids often learn from example. The way parents handle conflict sets a strong example for their children. If parents are respectful, patient, and loving in the way they work through disagreements, chances are kids will learn to emulate. If parents yell, slam doors, and say unkind words, be prepared to see the same in the kids.

How Parents Can Promote Peace

All children need rules and rule enforcement for a home to function best. Parents must set the rules, make sure kids understand the rules, and carry out disciplinary measures when the rules are not followed. This all needs to be done in a loving, yet authoritative manner.

So when you hear it from downstairs, and the fight is escalating between your kids, what should you do? Sit there on the couch and let them work it out on their own or run to intervene? This is a tough question, and determining the answer requires wisdom.

Kids need to be taught conflict resolution. They aren’t born knowing this skill. When fights break out, there are times when parents must get involved to coach their kids about negotiation, compromise, sharing, and forgiveness. Avoid the temptation to solve the problem for them, but help them work through it. If a rule has been broken (name-calling, bad language, hitting, door-slamming), there must be a consequence (time-out, grounding, spanking) so kids learn to obey.

At the same time, there are times as a parent when it is appropriate to let your kids resolve their issues on their own. If you’ve taught your kids how to work through conflict and if there’s no danger of a child getting hurt, let them hash it out. This is an important skill for kids to learn.

When helping kids sort through issues, parents must be on their guard against playing favorites. Make each child feel loved and special. Give plenty of positive attention so a child won’t feel the need to act out in order to gain negative attention.